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Durktron Posted on 06/08/2020 18:02
Worst year of my life
 
This year has been a disaster, lost my uncle first then lose my job in July and now my girlfriend decides she doesn't love me, I know I'm a bit of a wind up merchant on here but I'm really really struggling now [B)]
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Slipperutb01 Posted on 06/08/2020 18:30

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Sorry to hear this bud Donít give up mate plenty of good people on ere will listen 👍
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UKLL1981 Posted on 06/08/2020 18:34
Edited On: 06/08/2020 18:36
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Sorry to hear you are having a tough time of it, hang in there as things will get better. Donít forget to get help or be ashamed or embarrassed to if itís becoming too much.

If you are like me eventually you will get to the point where you either laugh because there isnít a lot else that can go wrong or it becomes something else. I donít say that to be cruel or funny. In the last 19 months Iíve buried my mum, split up with my partner (becoming a part time dad in the process) and spent the last 5 months stressing about my job every minute of the day waiting to be made redundant (Iím a aircraft engineer). I also found out my dad was having an affair when my mum was dying of cancer and heís now shacked up with this woman.

I got help a few a months ago after I developed anxiety and depression. I tried to do the bloke thing and just push through it, maybe too embarrassed to get help or talk about it, hoping it would just go away. Why would I get help? Big blokes in their 30s like me donít get depression, itís not the manly thing to do is it? After a year I broke down and didnít even recognise myself any more. Not saying you need help or should get help but donít be ashamed to and donít let this period in your life destroy you. Even with all the XXXXXX thatís gone on in my life the last few years Iím still the luckiest guy in the world, I only have to spend time with my 3 year old son to know that. I wouldnít trade that moment he runs up to me and hugs me when he sees me for all the money in the world.

Iím not trying to out do you with whatís happened to me, just trying to point out not to let things get out of hand like I did before you get help if you need it.
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RenzoRosso Posted on 06/08/2020 18:44

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Well done for saying out loud mate, thats the hardest part and most don't get that far - so pat your self on the back for that.

there's a group in the link that is worth a look.

Link: worth a call
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barry_codeye Posted on 06/08/2020 22:09

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UKLL1981 Respect mate [^]
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Billy69_uk Posted on 07/08/2020 09:40

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Hang in there mate, it WILL get better.

This year has caused lots of us to come to terms with feelings we have never "needed" to confront in the past.

With me it was a combination of depression, anxiety, stress etc, and whilst not enough of each individual one to cause a massive issue, the combination of them building up over time causes us to take a big hit to our resilience, and our ability to come back from the knocks we take in life.

At some point its ok to ask for help. I certainly did ( albeit later than I should have) but it was the best thing I have ever done.

It was also uncomfortable to talk to others about, but I have made a conscious effort to make sure we discuss mental health with my team and work colleagues, and it has led to some very deep conversations in the group or in 1:1 's.

Find someone you can talk to, it will help loads. Good luck, there are people rooting for you.[^]
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1834 Posted on 07/08/2020 13:22

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you have already made the 1st step by recognizing that you are struggling and opened up on here - good luck
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expat_smoggie Posted on 07/08/2020 17:57

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well done for speaking out ó weíre all going to pull on through ó so please hang on in there!! Feel free to express yourself --what kind of work are you into? Maybe some of the folk on here can help you on that subject?
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MonkeyTrousers Posted on 07/08/2020 21:34

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Hi Mate

Dealing with the black dog myself at the moment

Spoke to Impact Teesside recently to discuss the best way forward and although it was tough I know it was the best move I could have made to be able to get the help and support I need

Their number is 01642 573924

I'm with you all the way buddy
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alanmoodysdog Posted on 08/08/2020 02:00

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The past has already gone, the future is not yet here, there is only one moment to live thats the present
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sammysmiths Posted on 08/08/2020 09:28

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I'm really struggling also. Lost my mam 3 weeks ago, today. I've been working from home since March so barely see anyone, not even my own daughter. My hobbies are all outdoors, and now I've got a fear of going places. I've got no mcotivation, no interest in anything. The best way how I can describe how I feel is I'm in the middle of a large scale chaos riot, and 4 riot police are surrounding me and constantly jostling me with their riot shields, getting tighter and tighter, closer and closer, and hemming me in.
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MonkeyTrousers Posted on 08/08/2020 10:41

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So sorry to hear that Sammy Awful news
I can't even imagine how that must feel.

You sound as though you have symptoms of anxiety disorder.
Maybe a mix of CBT and counselling would help you take the small steps as and when you feel up to it

But, if you feel as though you can't bring yourself to speak to your GP by all means message here and I'll get my mobile number to you if that helps at all

Stronger together mate
Keep on keeping on

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Indeedido Posted on 08/08/2020 11:47

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Durktron, UK and Sammy, my thoughts are with you all.
Reach out and talk, it is the bravest and best thing to do.
The more you do, the more you realise that people care and things will get better.
Good luck and best wishes to all.
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expat_smoggie Posted on 08/08/2020 17:46
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Worst year of my life
These are trying times for everyone óIím sure thereís a way to relieve the pressure of being hemmed in ó plenty of excellent people in the FMTTM community to help and offer support-- come on lads help out your fellow fans.
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Bruces Posted on 09/08/2020 18:57

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Iíve struggled with mental issues all my life but these last 7 years have been hell on earth and I just canít seem to see things getting any better!
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Durktron Posted on 09/08/2020 19:29

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Thanks everyone I've talked to the doctor and he has said I have severe depression and anxiety, I guess the whole get talking works!! Already starting feeling more positive just because of telling people, I think I've been like this for years just always laughed it off.[^]
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YouwantsomeYougotnofans Posted on 12/08/2020 11:51

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Sorry to hear that mate...
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truck Posted on 12/08/2020 12:19

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Sorry to hear things so rough, lost my mum this year to cancer which took her quickly, but she had a good life and took it with a real grace.
Working from is not the great cop out many think it is as their is a lot of social interaction associated with being at work. I know my wife and i don't go out much under normal circumstances due to her work pattern, but she has been real hard work in lockdown as not working. The mental side of thing is being ignored for many. As others have said if you need help do contact the m,any support groups, and guess what with friends and family it does get better.
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LeeTublin Posted on 12/08/2020 13:26

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I went to the doctors a while back because i was up and down and when i felt down it was hard to get back up. I was told to get a hobby or go to the gym. [sad]
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Banned1 Posted on 16/08/2020 14:20
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Worst year of my life
Talk,talk,talk. It's truly the best thing you can doing such a situation. Talk to a professional councillors if available to you or if non at least talk to a trusted friend. Bumping up your physical exercise also helps.
I was so totally down 5 or 6 years ago mentally and it had a physical toll as well but I was lucky enough to have a GP who saw how bad I was and got me help quite quickly. Hours of talk and tears and a few years of old father time and I am now in a very happy place. Best wishes and good luck to you all out there who suffer anxiety and depression.
As the old TV ad used to say.

It's good to talk

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sammysmiths Posted on 17/08/2020 10:19

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Although I don't like to talk about my feelings much, ive bought myself a bike and went out yesterday with a mate. It felt really good. Ive got another mate who I normally meet up with for photography trips, but we haven't met up for months. Ive just found out his dad is really poorly so we have been meeting up for some photography trips locally, just to have a natter and share our thoughts. Its helping a bit, but I still wish my job would go back to normal and I can get out of the house during the day.
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